Personal Ads Just Got Too Personal

September 9, 2003

Online personal ads.

You’ve browsed them. Don’t lie. You might even have placed an ad of your own. You might have actually purchased credits to respond to someone else’s ad. Or maybe you get all fuck-the-man and try to sneak your email address into your profile once in awhile, hoping to subvert the system and meet someone cool in the process without actually spending money on the whole game. Not that I’ve ever done that or anything.

I used to have a profile up at Salon. I even met a few cool people that way, and acquired a few creepy stalker-ish sort of people. Some of them I’ve met in real life; some I haven’t yet. But I go through these phases of oh, I need to talk to someone new / wait, I’m not lame enough to post a personal ad / wait, I totally am exactly that lame / ooh, check this person out / nooo, that person is creepy and so on and so forth. Currently I had been in the “I’m not lame enough” phase, so it’s hidden. But then I started to get into the “I need new connections” phase again.

I hadn’t really done much with match.com but then I thought hey, if I’m going to do this whole thing I may as well do it with an eye toward meeting some new people to hang out with right around here, and salon doesn’t have many users who live here. So. I made my matchdotcom profile, and waited, and sent my little photo, and it got approved overnight.

Within literally an hour of the photo/profile getting approved, I had two emails as a result. Great, right?

No. Not great. Because one of them was from someone I already know.

But the thing is, his email doesn’t give any indication that he knows it’s me, but he HAS to know, doesn’t he? I mean, Jebus, my picture is on the stupid thing. But it’s all generic, like “Hi, my name is GuyYouKnow, check out my profile and see what you think.”

Um. What I think is that I already know all this stuff, because I already know you. That’s what I think.

And in a weird way, I feel like I just got busted doing something incredibly lame, even though I shouldn’t, because obviously he had a profile and because people do this all the time, right? Right. But I’m still a freak. So I freaked out and went and made my profile “hidden” right away, but in the meantime, what in the hell do I do?

Do I respond? Should I be like “duh, it’s me?” Man. Eek.

Personal ads just got too personal.

Filed under: old diaryland entries

7 Comments Leave a Comment

  • 1. will  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    You don't really have to respond, so the ball is in your court in that regard.

    Closer to home, how would you bump into interesting young unattached academic types (i.e. budding professors) on campus (if that's your affinity)?

  • 2. Cookie  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    Um, you know this guy in real life and he hasn't made the connection? What a dumbass.

  • 3. Lorie  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    It gets better. He works with my mom.

  • 4. mike  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    you're such a loser.

  • 5. Gumphood  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    he works with your mom, and now he wants to get to know you. Nice. Where is this thing again.

  • 6. Kruxy  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    He probably heard about your “slutty diary” from your mom, and he's testing the waters of your ho-ity…Or I could be projecting.

  • 7. lorie  |  January 11, 2005 at 11:32 pm

    ha. the alleged ho-ity, that is. you'd like to test those waters. and i am evil and punch-drunk.

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